Why The Bias?
Dad and I have started this new routine of going out, just the two of us. A suggestion by my darling mother, coz she feels we don’t spend much time with each other. So this Sunday we went for a drive. I was driving, quite apprehensively, because dad is too critical and too much of a perfectionist. Which frankly gets on my nerves. And we both being so hot-headed lose our temper even before we have left the building .
So as usual, he comments, “You are driving too fast”. Now in my defence, it is Sunday afternoon, the roads are wide and empty, and I am driving at a speed of around 40. Which I explain with good humour.
And then he says, “Girls shouldn’t drive so fast”. What the hell is that supposed to mean? Where did gender bias come into the picture here? What does it matter – male or female? Fast is fast, there is no other explanation to it.
He is obviously not done yet, “Boys, they are aggressive. Girls shouldn’t be so.” OK that just did it. I was totally dumb struck to hear this. That too from my father who has envisioned me as a strong-willed corporate leader, which till what I know are mostly men.
Some might say it was not such a big deal. Well, it was not. But not so big becomes big and big becomes huge in no time at all, right?
I also don’t disagree with the fact that one shouldn’t be aggressive while driving, etc. and channel this energy towards more important things. But why should it just pertain to girls? It should be applicable to everybody because, well it is the right thing to do.
Quite a few of my male friends also have a similar opinion. They are too smart to voice it out loud (in fear of a thrashing ), but they don’t miss the opportunity to give back once in a while.
Why is our society which boasts of so much advancement in terms of education and exposure still feel that women are and should remain the quiet, delicate, shadowed weaklings?
Or am I being ignorant and dishing out a totally irrelevant argument? Am I the one who is misguided? Is it that men and women will never be on an equal footing? Are all the proclamations about gender equality utter bullshit ?
Of course there is the ego factor. Men and their huge, mighty egos. No space left for us, poor females .
Cent percent equality is obviously not possible on many practical levels , even I agree. But what about instances where it can be inculcated? Say for example, in our minds. And I have noticed, it is not just the men, even women discriminate. I feel they are brainwashed .
Anyways, once home I narrated the entire conversation to mom. Two are better than one, isn’t it? We did win the battle against dad, made him eat his words . Thankfully, dad does not discriminate in the “real” sense. It is just wierd stuff like this which creeps up once in a while. And it is always very satisfying to change someone’s point of view. After all it is for a good cause .
So the score: one down. Hundred thousand million to go!